Vocabulary Cleansing – Volume 1

Posted by Andrew Netschay, in Leadership, Psychology, Jan 06, 2012

Are the words you speak and even more importantly, the words that permeate your thoughts sabotaging your success? Are you aware of your habits that are based on your limiting (not limited) vocabulary?  The following is a list of words I believe have become obstacles to achievement. I recommend they be removed from your vocabulary immediately.

Fair – how is what’s fair accurately defined? Clinging to some definition of ‘fair’ will only serve as a boat anchor to any form of business or personal growth. Cut the chain and let this one go.

Deserve – another beaut. So many people are consumed with ‘getting what they deserve.’ This is a subjective perspective which seldom has any resemblance with reality. Replace with one of the following:

  1. Earn
  2. Achieve
  3. Work

Entitled – we are living in the ‘Age of Entitlement’ (separate blog post is coming for this one.) With most of the millennial generation’s attitudes and perceptions influenced by shows like ‘American Idol’ many believe they are automatically entitled to a six figure salary, a German sports car and a mansion with an ocean view. Unless your source of income is an eight figure trust fund, drop this one now. The current economy doesn’t reward a sense of entitlement and the afflicted are learning some hard lessons.

Want – unless you’re five years old and telling Santa what you want for Christmas, no one cares to hear it. What you want is irrelevant to any reality based conversation. Again, replace ‘want’ with one of the following:

  1. Complete
  2. Deliver
  3. Acquire
  4. Succeed

Complain – falls in the same category as ‘want’. No one cares to hear your complaints and if you do find someone to patiently listen, you’ve just wasted time in two people’s lives. Complaining is borne from a victim’s mind set which is categorized by reactive thought patterns. Stop reacting to life and replace with one of the following:

  1. Act
  2. State
  3. Declare
  4. Execute

Reasons and/or excuses – the current economy does not provide you with the time to deliver a litany of reasons and/or excuses for your failure(s). Granted, we don’t always succeed but dwelling on excuses will not take you forward it will chain you to the failures that are now in the past. You will lose your audience at because, as in: “we missed the last quarter’s targets because Sally’s team didn’t…” Ultimately, these terms must be replaced with:

  1. Results
  2. Plans
  3. Contingencies

Blame – employing this tactic will place you on the fast track to the door. Combine it with reasons or excuses and you’ll have a lot of spare time on your hands thinking about who to blame for your decimated bank account and vanishing employment opportunities.


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